First, I offer my sympathies on the loss of your mother. The loss of a parent is extraordinarily painful. Not only must one deal with the absence of a loved one, one tends to reassess their own life in contemplation of their own longevity.
Consequently, you are probably feeling a greater desire to bond with your daughter. That is both reasonable and fair. Although you may be under the impression that your daughter should understand your feelings, she may not. She also may be avoiding anticipated drama.
The harsh reality, JD is that you may be giving your daughter the impression that a phone call with you will be an emotional drain. The longer you two don’t talk, the worse it will be.
You are the mother! Quit pussyfooting around. If you want to talk to your child call her! This meek routine hasn’t been very effective, has it?
She’ll probably be relieved to end the uncomfortable stalemate.
Good luck to you.
Welcome to the big city. You have encountered what local bird watchers like to refer to as a bitch.
Opening the door for women is a lovely thing to do. Few people who live in the hustle and bustle of big cities take the time to extend each other small courtesies anymore.
Disregard her rudeness and honor your fine upbringing.
This will all be over soon. By next Wednesday your daughter will probably find a new interest. Thirteen year old girls, thrive on challenging their mothers.
You don’t have a political problem. You have a teenager. If you think that she misunderstands issues, teach her. If she turns that sassy attitude on and mouths off at you, discipline her.
She’s testing you. She needs you to be a barometer for acceptable behavior. Nip that nonsense in the bud now and things will improve.