Dear Jimmy from Hofstra
New Years resolutions aren’t helpful hints from your annual suggestion box. You don’t hand them out. You write them for yourself as a way to help you focus on the areas of your life that you’d like to improve.
I’d love to know how you got the wrong idea but I’m afraid that I already know the answer.
Here’s a resolution for you, get out into the real world more often in 2017. I’m sure that you aren’t actually a douche but I suspect that one of your professors may be.
By telling other people how to improve themselves, you are only letting them know that you’ve judged them and found them lacking. Surprisingly few people respond well to that sort of thing.
The fact that you asked the question tells me something about you. You are trying to be a good guy.
Just keep your uninvited criticism to yourself and you’ll be fine.
Have a happy new year.
First of all, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You’ve assessed your budget and made a decision not to spend beyond your means. That is something to be proud of.
Being fiscally responsible is admirable. It’s also a good indication of future success.
Secondly, New Year’s Eve has a tendency to be overrated. Venues like restaurants and nightclubs charge outrageous amounts of money for what usually turns out to be lesser quality food and service.
The reason that every tv station offers a New Year’s Eve special is that plenty of people don’t choose to go out. If you don’t want to tell your friends about your finances, you don’t have to. It’s nobody’s business. If you ask around, I bet that you’ll find at least one or two people that you know who aren’t going out on the town either. Why not get together with them? You can watch the ball drop and do the count down together.
If you want to do something fun, give everyone a pot or pan and a spoon. At midnight, run outside and bang them and yell Happy New Year at the top of your lungs.
It may sound silly but you’d be surprised. Not only is it fun to run out and make a racket at midnight, it’s extra good when you hear other people in your neighborhood doing it too.
You never need to feel obligated to spend money to have a good time and you shouldn’t be ashamed by your bank account. You aren’t defined by dollars. You are defined by your choices and it sounds to me like you’re A-Ok.
Have a wonderful New Year’s Eve and a Happy New Year.