It sounds like you are afraid of your friend. She is lying to you and she’s not even putting in a convincing effort. What you’ve described is not a relationship with a good friend, but a relationship with a protector to whom you are submissive. My guess is that some relationship of yours turned sour and she helped you pick up the pieces. That is not a dig. That is an acknowledgment of you and your choice of companions.
When you share a bond with someone, you can engage infrequently but when those rare occasions occur in which you need help, they show up.
That kind of relationship is perfectly valid. It’s just not a friendship, exactly. It’s actually more special in some ways. If you have someone that you can truly count on in a crisis, you are a lucky one. Take a different approach towards planning activities with her. Don’t make her the anchor of your evening. If she shows up, great. If she doesn’t, no loss. In the end what matters is that you can count on her when you need her. As long as you can do the same for her, the relationship is solid.
Why is this any of your business? Your stilted language combined with your attempt to hide your obvious hostility suggest that you might prefer that he were with you.
” At present, she says she will leave him this summer”? That’s an unnatural way of phrasing things. You should know better than to try to fool Olga.
‘Meanwhile, she professes her love for him on Facebook’ I took the liberty of cleaning that one up for you.
When you read your own words, you can see how they sound right?
If you don’t understand your cousin’s motivations, you can ask her to explain. Tread lightly though and be aware of your own motivations. You are inserting yourself into a relationship between two people that has nothing to do with you. You are also siding against your own family member.
Instead of wasting your efforts on pitying your cousin’s beaux, how about spending some time focusing on your own needs? Just remember the golden rule. Blood is thicker than water.
You precious little thing.
Welcome to the theme of the day. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!
You cannot defend the horrific behavior of another.
This woman had the good fortune to venture abroad. She then made an ostentatious display of her extravagant expenditures by having them delivered to your place of business, rather than her own home.
On top of that, she had the audacity to mandate specific orders as to the appropriate maintenance of her expenditure while she did God knows what over the weekend. Then she accused her coworkers of a propensity for theft.
Maybe best of all, your little charmer was confused as to why no one wanted to lend her a hand when it came time to bring her libations to the car.
Mercedes, Mercedes, Mercedes …what you should do is stop living vicariously through this classless boar.
She may indeed be a lovely person, deep down, but unless you earn your living as a member of the clergy, saving souls isn’t your job.
Work hard and do your best. Soon enough, you will be the one taking those trips abroad.
And you know what the best part is? Unlike your coworker, you will have the wisdom to allow you to enjoy your time away and then come home to share the experience with friends and coworkers in a way that makes everyone feel closer to you and each other.
Be grateful, your coworker taught you an invaluable lesson.